Imagine you’re at a party. A guy offers you a drink. You say no. He says “Come on, one drink!” You say “no thanks.” Later, he brings you a soda. “I know you said you didn’t want a drink, but I was getting one for myself and you looked thirsty.” For you to refuse at this point makes you the asshole. He’s just being nice, right? Predators use the social contract and our own good hearts and fear of being rude against us. If you drink the drink, you’re teaching him that it just takes a little persistence on his part to overcome your “no.” If you say “Really, I appreciate it, but no thanks” and put the drink down and walk away from it, you’re the one who looks rude in that moment. But the fact is, you didn’t ask for the drink and you don’t want the drink and you don’t have to drink it just to make some guy feel validated.by
The art of “no,” continued: Saying no when you’ve already said yes. « CaptainAwkward.com
I love this post SO MUCH.
Jena Malone is listed as an actress/musician on Wikipedia. I knew she could act but I didn’t know too much about her music. My first thought when thinking of her as a musician was, “Oh great another actor/actress that wants to be in a band. 30 odd foot of grunts much?” (props if you get the reference my dear readers). In a matter of seconds I was presented with this little gem of a song and all of my assumptions were completely lost. The song is soft and pretty, and really well put together. Her voice is fantastic, and it seems like she’s got a very good grasp on what she wants her band and music to sound like. My final verdict? Listen up.